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Do you think spanking even when used as a last resort ever works? Do you think
it can be used as a disciplinary tool or should be made illegal altogether?
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[0] [0]1957
As a child if I misbehaved I got a spanking. My father only ever used his hand and he had hard hands. All of us kids grew up to respect adults whereas the kids of today have no respect for authority. People need to realise that there is a difference between discipline and child abuse.
Posted by 1957 on 16 Dec 2013
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[1] [0]squeekums1
It can be used in schools, so long as I reserve the right when the teacher is in the wrong to spank them Or any other adult. I dont get it, once your an adult hitting another person is assult, do it to a child and its 'disciplin' if the child is known to you? As far as im concerned they are both assult
Posted by squeekums1 on 14 Oct 2013
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[0] [0]brydie
each person should have the right to choose how they disciplen their child. there is a big difference between smacking and beating a child. in saying that i also believe you should have to get a licence to breed and child abusers/ moleters should be make sterile
Posted by brydie on 28 Sep 2013
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powerstart
my son made me a wooden spoon at school and it got broken on him ..he has never forgotton it .my biggest regret
Posted by powerstart on 19 Sep 2013
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[1] [0]rebeccasaunders
depends on the behvaiour surrounding the smack, the frequency they are given, the severity of the smack and the debriefing once the punshment has been served.
Posted by rebeccasaunders on 15 Sep 2013
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[0] [0]goodes
DO NOT BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF YOUR CHILDREN ITS COMPLETELY WRONG!!!!!!!!!!! just a smack on the bum will do
Posted by goodes on 27 Aug 2013
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goodes
hi there i have 2 little brothers they are terrors i learn you have to smack your kid on the bottom to teach them a lesson not too hard just hard enough so they understand what they did was naughty and not to do it agian BUT DO NOT BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF YOUR CHILDREN THAT IS WRONG AND BLLODY REDICULOUS.
Posted by goodes on 27 Aug 2013
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goodes
hi there i have 2 little brothers they are terrors i learn you have to smack your kid on the bottom to teach them a lesson not too hard just hard enough so they understand what they did was naughty and not to do it agian BUT DO NOT BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF YOUR CHILDREN THAT IS WRONG AND BLLODY REDICULOUS
Posted by goodes on 27 Aug 2013
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sambacrush
I am a mother of four and i would smack every day of the week if it meant the difference between them listening to me and remaining safe or being let loose to harm themselves or each other or other members of the public. there is a standard that we must live to that is socially acceptable and smacking for disciplinary reasons based on right from wrong (not rage or anger) is a necessary tool that a parent needs to use to enforce the message of consequences for doing the wrong thing. I would also rather smack my child rather than they be left with the message that they can do whatever they want and have them end up in jail one day. Its called parenting for a reason, you are the teacher for that child that shows them the path that they will lead in their life to success.
Posted by sambacrush on 21 Aug 2013
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T.BONE
you can only say dont do that or stop so many times. im a father of three only in there younger days did i need to give them a crack them on the ass.when they tested the boundries and pushed to far.sitting them down the first few times and talking only went so far .better to learn from there parents then to learn police or people that they are rubbing up the wrong way.which could end up serving jail time or having ass kicked by someone else.
Posted by T.BONE on 19 Aug 2013
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[1] [0]stude
spanking your child is a must if they are naughty as long as its not out of anger.. only to teach them that bad behavour isnt good .. it even says that in the bible... spear the rod and spoil the child... i wonder why...must be right...kids that havent had any spanking seem wild and disrespectful these days
Posted by stude on 18 Aug 2013
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Emma
I would never hit my son, smacking in my opinion does nothing but hurt the child I would go as far as to say it's a form of child abuse ! I'm for making it illegal no wonder kids are violent and aggressive if they are being smacked at home they will see it as being ok to do to others,
Posted by Emma on 18 Aug 2013
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[0] [0]Elaine93
hi there. i am a teenager at 20 years old. in my opinion, i think both methods have their good and bad. it is depend on the elders to use it correctly.. correc here means is not what that person think what is right but what make the best out comes.
Posted by Elaine93 on 17 Aug 2013
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[1] [0]Jasmine
Since when is being "20" classed as being a teenager? You are an adult are you not?
Posted by Jasmine on 17 Aug 2013
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Lelia
it's wrong to spank kids specially for no reason. I too have 2 sons I spank them when there's no way to stop them from doing wrong such as when aruing each other. but only on their bottom. and I guess that's how I brought up aswell.
Posted by Lelia on 17 Aug 2013
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Belady
ive never use anything to spank a child. i have open hand hit. but i dont do it anymore as i find it upsetting to me if i did it. as i get told im to easy. i get really angry at people who hit there kids in public. they can tell them off, because some kids need it. i say make it illegal.
Posted by Belady on 16 Aug 2013
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alicens
I think that is wrong to spank your child, although I have a 5 years daughter and I must admitt it happened to spank her. I strongly think it should be illegal as there are so manny unfit parents
Posted by alicens on 15 Aug 2013
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loopyloo65
Those who advocate reasoning with toddlers and small children are dreaming! For most older children reasoning works but not all. The ability of parents to discipline their children has already been eroded by the State but that doesn't stop authorities regularly threatening that they will make parents responsible for their children's actions. Making spanking illegal would not stop those who brutalise children so don't make it illegal but put more resources into monitoring children at risk and bringing to justice the abusers.
Posted by loopyloo65 on 15 Aug 2013
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[0] [0]Jen91
As a twenty one year old mother myself, I believe that there is nothing wrong with a little smack on the child just to discipline them. It's okay to give them a little smack to discipline but never go as far as beating the shit out of them, kids can learn with just that one little smack of discplinary. I don't really agree with making smacking illegal! because whats the point?, even if it was illegal the government aren't gonna hire bodyguards to guard every child that has abusive parents, just saying! It kind of all depends on the parents! If they're good with their kids and know the limit to diciplinary then there is no need for making smacking illegal its abit childish and foolish. Thanks, have a nice day!
Posted by Jen91 on 15 Aug 2013
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[1] [0]Annedib
I have a wonderful son, I spanked him if he disobeyed me in a any matters where it was a serious matter. However only when he had deliberately disobeyed me. I must add the spanking was very light smacks where he didn't have painful aftermaths with it. He is very close to me as are my three lovely granddaughters.
Posted by Annedib on 12 Aug 2013
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Lorraine
I believe in taking away something they enjoy eg: mobile phone, ipod, games, grounding. Talking to them and letting them know the reasons for why you are doing it, and they just can't doing what they are doing cause they think it is right.
Posted by Lorraine on 12 Aug 2013
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[0] [0]tarot gal
Each to their own, as long as it does not border on abuse. I personally don't smack my daughter and believe there are other forms of discipline. What really bugs me is so called "helpful' strangers who you come across on the bus, in the shops, ect who feel the urge to tell you how to raise your child, claiming smacking is the only way.
Posted by tarot gal on 12 Aug 2013
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JacksMum
The problem is the difference between a smack and a beating. As adults we should be in control enough to know the difference but as we see from the child abuse reported on that is not the case. It's not easy bringing up kids in this day and age as there are so many theories out there. I think you have to be confident enough as a parent to know what works best for your own child and learn to manage yourself as the adult too. Remember we were all kids once and were naughty and made mistakes it's about putting those issues in perspective and learning to discipline with love!
Posted by JacksMum on 11 Aug 2013
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[1] [0]nanab
I did spank my children but looking back I think you spank because you get frustrated and then regret what you did..spanking does not help controlling the child..there are much better options like time out from their favorite pastime..children are so very precious we must look after and treasure their existence...
Posted by nanab on 10 Aug 2013
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Wendyelise
I have two children both of them totally different, i have spanked both of them but only as a last resource and it was with my hand and on their bottoms and they were wearing clothes at the time. however that was only on a couple of occaisions and it didnt really work. It was more to give them a fright than anything else. I do think that used in a right way as a disciplinary tool is ok, but it is helpful to let your child know that if all else fails, you will have to do it. This gives them the heads up, that mom or dad is serious and only should be used in extreme cases and only with the hand on the back side.
Posted by Wendyelise on 08 Aug 2013
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jj2010
I don't think it should be made illegal there is a fine line between abuse and discipline and most parents don't over step the mark. we do not want a Government body to be the nanny in Australia
Posted by jj2010 on 08 Aug 2013
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ShelleyC
There are other ways to discipline them, which is always the 1st option...but sometimes it is called for and there is also a line between discipline and abuse NO EXCUSE EVER for that
Posted by ShelleyC on 08 Aug 2013
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relle5
i have 3 children and can only remembering smacking my oldest once, he was about 2 years old and he was wanting to go near the gas heater which was on at the time so a smack on the hand and he never went near it again. I think many parents give to many empty threats, you need to follow through with discipline every time so when you say no they child understands you mean it.
Posted by relle5 on 07 Aug 2013
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[3] [0]Herocliff
I am one of six children brought up by a strict mother while my father was a softy. Mum was a heavy handed disciplinarian and I value, acknowledge thank her for the smacking we received. It has taught me and helped me be a good human-being with manners, respect etc. I smack my three kids and they understand it too because the Bible says "Spare the Rod and Spoil the child". Too many parents are soft and spoil their children in today. That's the reason majority of children are very demanding, undisciplined, lack self-respect,respect for others and property etc. and society is becoming selfish and absurd.
Posted by Herocliff on 06 Aug 2013
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sassy sybarite
If you hit your child then you are using a blunt form of communication at best and at worst you are committing a form of assault. The difference is, are you under control and hitting with an intent to change behaviour or are you out of control and hitting from rage? Either way, it is far from ideal. If you do something wrong you expect to be able to explain yourself, receive a fair hearing and a fair and appropriate punishment if found guilty. Should your children expect less? What is more, children are often considered to be 'naughty' when they are just being young and innocent.We need to be more tolerant and understanding of their limited experience and understanding of life. It is our job to teach them how to deal with their emotions and the world around them. The more empathetically we can communicate with them the better they will understand and understanding will help them cope and manage the setbacks and problems of the future. Hitting is the refuge of the ignorant and the intolerant. Your children deserve much better. However making it illegal is not the answer. Education is.
Posted by sassy sybarite on 06 Aug 2013
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Kitty000
Sassy, I agree 100% with you. People say 'children are out of control, feral, disrespectful etc etc' but I think that they feel threatened because today's youth are a lot more informed than those of yesteryear. Also, a child being 'naughty' could be someone's perception and not necessarily truth. It's frightening that the majority of people agree with spanking/smacking a child just because he/she is younger and smaller
Posted by Kitty000 on 15 Dec 2013
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[2] [0]e.t genius
I am Pacific Islander and I would say that every parent have there own way of disciplining their kids. I believe that spanking is not the only way to discipline but to teach your kids that what they have done is wrong, spanking may be the only way. Afterwards a lecture is given to the kid(s) so they understand why they were spanked and they will know that in the real world, when you do bad things, there is consequences. Look at it this way. The parents in the household makes the rules within the household so as the government law within the country. The parents are the judge and the prosecutor in the house and they should choose wisely what punishment should be given to a child when they disobey just like they do in the Court of law. That way when the kids grow up they have learned a lifetime lesson and will never want to stand before a judge of the law.
Posted by e.t genius on 06 Aug 2013
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[2] [3]Diann
Do you like to be hit - NO, well do not hit others, simple...
Posted by Diann on 06 Aug 2013
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JadeSimpson
How is spanking different from abusing your child? It feels wrong to even smack and they remember everything you do. So make it illegal.
Posted by JadeSimpson on 05 Aug 2013
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BRING.IT.ON.DIGGA
WOULD YOU LIKED TO BE SPANKED JUST ASK YOURSELF
Posted by BRING.IT.ON.DIGGA on 05 Aug 2013
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Herocliff
I was a child brought up with strict discipline and spanking. I respect, acknowledge and thank my parents for it because it had made me a better person. I value manners, respect myself and others, less demanding and living a contented life and respect other people's property etc. etc.etc. Unlike today's selfish, arrogant, demanding, illmannered etc. etc generation. i smack my children who are in their late teens and they acknowledge my strict discipline.
Posted by Herocliff on 06 Aug 2013
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Jasmine
Yes. ;)
Posted by Jasmine on 06 Aug 2013
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Cranky sanki
It is soo sad that so many people think in such extremes. A smack is not a beating and most average people know the difference. You cannot always reason with your child and make them understand why it's not a good idea to poke things in power points; stick fingers into holes; stick things up your nose; poke a toy into the babies eye/) ear/face; run away in the supermarket carpark, etc. Governments use fear and force to get their point across to other countries and they are all fully grown supposedly bright adults. I don't advocate violence but a smack on tbe hand or bottom as instantaneous shock to frighten a child so they are not in a hurry to repeat the action or behaviour is a valid tool a one of the things we can do as pare ts ri gi g up our kids.
Posted by Cranky sanki on 05 Aug 2013
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[1] [0]Wahine Kiwi
I'm from NZ and the anti spanking law has been in for a few years now. Unfortunately this was a result of children being killed (murdered really) due to whatever excuse the lawyer could come up with - when in actual fact the child was killed because they were crying, wet there pants, was hungry, was not his/her own child. The problem is over the top discipline. When does a tap on the hand, a spank on the bottom or whatever become a hit or punch. I spanked my children and I spank my grandchildren. If they are naughty or do something that is wrong I will spank them and so does my daughter/son-in-law. What happens behind closed doors is my business and nobody else. I have never in the time that I had worked for the Justice Dept in NZ heard of a child being killed in public, it has always been behind closed doors. No matter what law you passed you will not save every child.
Posted by Wahine Kiwi on 05 Aug 2013
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[3] [0]pozzie2
i am now 78 and brought up in a era when naughty kids got the cane at school,i had it twice,the first and the last time,i believe that is the trouble these days kids have no discipline in school,in those days kids were taught to respect other people,BRING BACK THE CANE in school,at home a little smack on the bum never hurt any one, as long as it was only a little one tony h.
Posted by pozzie2 on 05 Aug 2013
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F0X
Why do we need to make everything "legal" or "illegal"? Spanking shouldn't be made illegal. Kids should be disciplined when they need to be disciplined. Nothing wrong with teaching the kids between right and wrong.
Posted by F0X on 05 Aug 2013
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lil miss T
kids thrive on discipline
Posted by lil miss T on 05 Aug 2013
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lil miss T
kids thrive on discipline.
Posted by lil miss T on 05 Aug 2013
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[0] [0]wade3champ
Kids need to be disciplined but too many people are abusing them instead and it gets out of control
Posted by wade3champ on 05 Aug 2013
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Jasmine
So, do you really think the low-life people that beat/bash/ their children will not do it because all of a sudden it is illegal? Women are still bashed by abusive partners and that IS illegal and they still do it even when a restraining order is in place!
Posted by Jasmine on 05 Aug 2013
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elmo88
I am a mother of 2 now grown children and a 5 year old grand daughter. I very rarely spanked my children i could count on one hand the amount of times. I used to use alternative punishment,,ie time out,,no tv etc and for me that worked. I do however believe some children do need a spanking at times. I do not believe using objects like belts and wooden spoons. I believe every child and situation is different and people should not be judged if a spanking is what is needed.
Posted by elmo88 on 05 Aug 2013
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jkelo
I believe on not to spank your kids at all. In my opinion when you start to spank your kids you gonna get use to it and one day can lead you to a state it can be worst like child abuse ... I believe on spank your kid with your voice by keep telling them what they need to do and the thing they don't need to do. It doesn't matter how naughty they are if you keep on advice them they will Alway remember it in there heart . No need of spank the kid anymore spank is for animal not for human being
Posted by jkelo on 04 Aug 2013
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Jasmine
So hard to read your post...but anyway, then please tell me WHY you think it okay to spank an animal and not a child? Wouldn't that then be 'animal abuse' with your reasoning?
Posted by Jasmine on 05 Aug 2013
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tonk
We all live within boundaries such as speed limits,and there are consequences if we break the boundaries (eg speeding fine). Parents need to put age appropriate boundaries in place, and if they are broken, then there should be appropriate consequences, and maybe a smack on the bottom given in love and not anger would be appropriate. I would much rather a child be smacked on the bottom for running across a busy road to prevent him/her doing it again than receiving no punishment and do it again and get run over.
Posted by tonk on 04 Aug 2013
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adrienneshay
I believe spanking could be a good source of discipline as long as the child isn't being beaten to the point of abuse
Posted by adrienneshay on 04 Aug 2013
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Polly Perkins
i am a 70 year old lady and i told a lie to my mum when i was 8,and she found me out and hit me on my legs with a ruler. AND I HAVE NOT LIED SINCE.When i think about lying i remember that hit. It hurt like hell. I spanked my kids when necessary and they turned out pretty good.So use ones discretion. Judy K
Posted by Polly Perkins on 04 Aug 2013
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Donna
Parenting these days is difficult enough. My children have both grown up. I did smack them with my hand so I did not hurt them. My children do not remember being smacked. My children have grown up into beautiful adults. Everyone thought my boy was ADHD but he was not - he was just a full on boy and big. One day he decided to sit in the middle of a busy road. I could not move him and no one was coming to my aid so I smacked him and he moved to a safer place and he was ok - he did not get run over. So which should I have chosen - smack or leave him in a dangerous place.
Posted by Donna on 04 Aug 2013
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kevin
If a man hits a woman its abuse if a adult hits a child its the same thing we as adults r alot stronger then children same concept with men hitting women say no child abuse
Posted by kevin on 04 Aug 2013
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[4] [0]sunbaby
I have a nine year old whom I no longer smack as I expect her to understand reasoning. However, my 14 month old is still learning and a smack on the hand or nappy bum is a sure way of getting the message across. Up until a certain age I think a spanking is just fine - its not to harm but alarm. My generation grew up like that and they have better morals and manners than todays children!!
Posted by sunbaby on 03 Aug 2013
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[1] [0]Sallymoo
I am a mother of a 18 year old daughter. I can honestly say she was spanked maybe twice in her life both times I felt terrible afterwards. I think there are ways of punishing without hitting I found a way to punish my child without physically hitting. Sometimes just sitting them down and talking can resolve so many issues. To many children are abused and hurt its time to put a stop to abuse. This is only my opinion and I also believe every parent should raise there children in there own way.
Posted by Sallymoo on 03 Aug 2013
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redrumsgal
In N.Z. smacking is against the law. It was put in place to stop child abuse but children are still being killed. There is a huge difference between disciplining your child and physical abuse. I was brought up "old school" and my brothers and I were kicked up the backside if we played up. We all agree that it did us no harm. Kids today are aware of the laws in this country and the government just gave them a pass to be as disrespectful as they like. I personally don't hit my kids, but I dont judge other parents on how they are with their own kids.
Posted by redrumsgal on 03 Aug 2013
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becmas
There is a difference between a smack and a beating .As a parent raising a child on my own I smacked my daughter till the age of about 10.In saying this smacks were only ever on the arm hand or bottom, and never without 3 warnings and explaining consequences of actions. Of course repeat offenses the consequences of actions were known .I have a rounded 20 year old who works part time whilst she studies along with regular community service activities ,she respects her elders ,knows the importance of family and has true valued friends .Maybe if a little more discipline and the occasional smack was handed out Respect would be higher and juvenile crime rate would be lower .Those parents that BEAT their children were never meant to be parents but a smack never did a child harm other than temporary shock and a few tears
Posted by becmas on 03 Aug 2013
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[0] [0]bobbie2171
Well said! Thank you
Posted by bobbie2171 on 03 Aug 2013
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little me
All children need to know the ground rules. Spanking has got out of context and too many children are being abused.
Posted by little me on 03 Aug 2013
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tiger/rich
i would think that kids now days should get more disapli n when they were young so now days there wouldnt be as much drinking,crime, or violence etc.there is a difference between civalized and non civilized
Posted by tiger/rich on 03 Aug 2013
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faery
We were all brought up being smacked if we needed the discipline and most (not all) of our generation is pretty good when it comes to respect for others etc. I do not believe in beating a child but there is a difference between the two. Most of the children I see these days who have had no discipline also have no respect for anyone, parents, the law or otherwise.
Posted by faery on 02 Aug 2013
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Jasmine
Excellent point you make faery...most of the children that were not spanked have grown up with no respect!
Posted by Jasmine on 05 Aug 2013
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Zuzz
I am a mother of two fully well adjusted daughters, who were spanked and they are caring community minded individuals thats focus on respect for others
Posted by Zuzz on 02 Aug 2013
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Robert
yes
Posted by Robert on 02 Aug 2013
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icycool6565
It depends on how disobedient the child is. If you cannot get them by just word or a warning look you may as well as send them to their rooms, you can smack them not when you are angry but when you feel you have been solemn. This shows the child that your pumishment is way of discipling them because you love them and you don't want them to grow into unruly individuals.
Posted by icycool6565 on 02 Aug 2013
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pinkf
Most of us here were spanked when we were young, i turned out ok i remember my mum going off her rocker at my brother when she caught him smoking behind the shed he really coped it with the wooden spoon i have never seen my mum go off like that after that i was really scared of her and my brother started to recent my mum even to this day he dose
Posted by pinkf on 02 Aug 2013
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whoishe?
pinkf, it's time your brother grew up. Did your Mum ever punish him for eating his dinner? Any person who appreciates the extent to which their parents loved them, will understand a Mother who did not wish them to smoke. Would he put a gun to his head?
Posted by whoishe? on 07 Aug 2013
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bobbie2171
My parents, corrected and taught us with a hit/spank. If we done something wrong as a little child Dad would smack us across the fingers or our bottom and say NO as we got older, we knew NO was NO. or get a smack. When Dad said NO it usually enough for us to stop. I can't remember Dad hitting us in our latter child years. He is the best Dad do anything for us and does. My Aunt had two children, one only a small smack would bring him to tears, yet the other would laugh back at her mother no matter how hard she would get hit, best way to correct her was take something that she loved away from her. So I feel it is the parents duty to find which way to punish a child the best. Sometimes love needs to be tough. Doesn't matter what age we are young or old we still do wrong and need correction
Posted by bobbie2171 on 02 Aug 2013
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[3] [0]cingers
I did give my children a smack but it was usually when they wouldn't stop a non safe behaviour. There's a smack and a spanking, both are quiet different in definition. I must say I was guilty of smacking them more than once on the rare occasion for which i felt very bad afterwards. There comes a time when a child understands more and a smack isn't needed, they usually respond with a different type of discipline. I have had the life scared out of me by my small child refusing to obey me when crossing the road or playing with a power socket when we were out. Let's get it in context, I am not against a smack on the hand or bottom, but spanking I is not on.
Posted by cingers on 02 Aug 2013
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howietren
I think under certain circumstances, spanking should be allowed. I am in my seventies now, and I remember when I was a kid, if I did something wrong, I got spanked. At the time I resented that, but after it wore Off, I realized that most times I deserved it, and it did not affect my love for my parents. I loved them for their training me to be a good person, by doing that.
Posted by howietren on 01 Aug 2013
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Ancientbloke
As a father who raised four children solo, I have to say I do not believe I would have been so successful had I not been able to inflict a little physical discipline when it was required. I stress discipline, not brutality. All my children are now successful parents with children of their own, and I am proud of all of them.
Posted by Ancientbloke on 01 Aug 2013
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connie capable
Spanking works as a deterrent I think.Depends how old the child is.
Posted by connie capable on 01 Aug 2013
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Sheilamac
There is a big difference between spanking and hitting. I never hit my children, but, yes I did spank.
Posted by Sheilamac on 01 Aug 2013
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Jasmine
Me too. A light smack on the bottom never hurt me or my children. I never spanked them hard enough to make them cry...just enough to let them know what they did was serious! It is natural, even birds and animals chastise their young.
Posted by Jasmine on 01 Aug 2013
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honey combe
I believe spanking dose'nt really accomplish anything in discipling your child. Parents do it out of frustration. I know I did with my children. I found I had more success when I used a more firm tone of voice. It worked for me, spanking did nothing.
Posted by honey combe on 31 Jul 2013
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mishiee56
Wow, now that's one real scary voice that you must have! No, a smack on the bottom does not hurt your child at all, with a firm NO! They will soon learn that what they are doing is not the right way to behave. Unless of cause they are allergic to school, which I believe is the recent thing going on, with children playing up and suddenly not wanting or refusing to go to or attend school. What next?
Posted by mishiee56 on 02 Aug 2013
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honey combe
I noticed you used a firm NO!. Maybe that's what worked for you. Not the actual smack itself?
Posted by honey combe on 07 Aug 2013
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snelly
It's illegal to hit another adult, so it absolutely needs to be illegal to hit a small person. It's a lazy way of getting a child to do what you want and doesn't teach anything other than fear. Children do as we do, so by hitting them it just gives them reason to believe it is ok to hit others. I'd so much rather a world where parents led by example.
Posted by snelly on 31 Jul 2013
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whoishe?
There is no perfect answer snelly, but I love the way you think! I believe that fair-minded parents, treating their children as thinking individuals, are leading by example. Whether they are aware of it or not, is immaterial.
Posted by whoishe? on 07 Aug 2013
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mishiee56
You are strange.
Posted by mishiee56 on 05 Aug 2013
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Wahine Kiwi
Adults should know better - a child needs to learn, by that I mean if you tap/spank lightly in most cases they learn not to do it again. Notice I used the words tap/spank not hit. No matter what law you pass - it will be broken and you will not save everyone.
Posted by Wahine Kiwi on 05 Aug 2013
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bobbie2171
My Dad was from an abusive home. Corrected us with smack across the fingers or bottom with the word NO when we where little that as we grew we knew if dad said no he meant no. Just because he was flogged, etc when he was young doesn't mean he will do so when he gets older. Dad is one of the best men I know, always out helping others, as one man said of Dad recently we always are indebted to my Father for all that my Dad silently does for them. This blaming a bad childhood on what they do when the grow up makes me mad! About time they started taking responsiblity of their own actions. Fear is a good thing in the right way - if it is going to stop me (I knew of what I would get if I didn't obey) from doing what I should not be doing, then that is a good thing. Bit like you get pulled up for drink driving or speeding you know the that you may loose you licence - that too is a fear.
Posted by bobbie2171 on 02 Aug 2013
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Taggie
My children are 21 and 19, I did not smack them but did use other forms of discipline with them. My daughter had a bad habit of slamming her bedroom door, so I took it off for two weeks, she didn't do it again. The problem is not that parents aren't smacking their children, it's that they are not using any other form of discipline. A lot of parents can't seem to say no and not change from that, so if a child hears no, no, no , yes, then of course they will nag until they get what they want. An abundance of love is needed also.
Posted by Taggie on 31 Jul 2013
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Jasmine
NO, spanking should not be made illegal! There is a difference between a light smack/spanking on the bum and child abuse...so lets get that clear. I believe that a smack teaches discipline at an early age as well as respect. Just look what happened when corpral punishment was taken out of schools! Many young people today have no respect for Police, Parents, Teachers and themselves...and that is because they have no discipline! It should be up to the parent's discretion how they raise their children because ultimately the parents are responsible for them, nobody else. I am totally against cruelty and child abuse however!
Posted by Jasmine on 31 Jul 2013
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[0] [0]ferne
I agree totally. Making smacking illegal will never stop the people that beat children to the point of abuse. Children need discipline. I grew up on a farm and even the animals disciplined their young. You only have to look around at today's kids and see violence and drunkeness to see what no discipline has done for them.
Posted by ferne on 31 Aug 2013
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solum
children are growing up today without proper discipline and you can see just how they behave in society , a little spanking is good when they are disobeying, they should be corrected right away when they are doing something wrong.
Posted by solum on 31 Jul 2013
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DDTT
In some SA Public Schools in the late 1980s some students in reception class were told that "Kids have rights" that if they didn't do what their parents told them to do they didn't have to. If they were yelled at it was automatically verbal abuse even if there was no dubvious words used. If they were given even a light tap if they reported it to school the police and other authorities would be told and they might be taken away from their parents. Kids aren't stupid. Some of them worked out that if they didn't have to do what their parents requested they didn't have to obey their teachers either. They are adults the same as their parents. The teachers wondered why some of the students gradually turned into "ferals" and constantly either disrupted class or walked out when they felt like it. (during their 1st term at school at 5y.o. they were also taught sex eduation - very detailed too - the parents considerred the child was too young for as much information as they were taught and considerred it was their responsiblity to do so at a suitable age according to maturity--- the parents were not impressed and went to the school for a meeting with the teacher and principal ----apparently he wasn't impressed either)
Posted by DDTT on 19 Sep 2013
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Crok
I think it is up to the parents whether they spank or not. Looking at the children today I think spanking should be made legal, these kids have no control or respect for anyone or anything. Toys, phones etc should be earned not given because they are demanded by kids.
Posted by Crok on 12 Aug 2013
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Roxx
Totally agree with solum. The Bible says "spare the rod and spoil the child" we have a whole generation of spoilt, unruly, undisciplined and disrespectful children. A little controlled discipline never hurt anyone. I was smacked as a child, but it did not do me any harm.
Posted by Roxx on 05 Aug 2013
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mishiee56
Yes I agree. I do not believe in corporal punishment, but a good smack when a child does something wrong is okay. If we do not show a child right from wrong, then how will they ever know right from wrong. There is none or very little respect these days if any with children and their parents. It's very sad but very true. Children know that they can get away with a lot more these days than we could have years ago. And they do just that. No, a smack when necessary is fine by me. There has to be boundaries and rules, they do not seem to understand that in life there is always going to be, boundaries and rules and that's just how life is, and it's as simple as that. Cheers Mishiee.
Posted by mishiee56 on 01 Aug 2013
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carocordo
I am the mother of a now 19 year old young man. He has become a fine person, and I only ever hit him once. That occasion is my most shocking memory of my life as a mother. I had completely lost the plot, my son was playing up and I just hit him. Remembering that action now has made me feel dirty again... I am in favor of making spanking illegal, for sure.
Posted by carocordo on 31 Jul 2013
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Star-Baby
I believe smacking your children once is perfectly fine
Posted by Star-Baby on 17 Aug 2013
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Tereapii
It is good to say a few things about yourself what about the child! How was he feeling after this incident, did you even discuss how sorry you were and how did he reach to your questions? If you don't act sooner your son could be holding on to a hate behavior later in life. It is best to talk things out rather that smacking; some times you have to consider the other person's feeling,letting them talk first, then it is your turn to compromise with the other person. Sharing thoughts of each family members with each other before dinner, this way might work to break the ice. So yes smacking is not the answer to a young teenage boy/girls, I agree. Love Tereapii
Posted by Tereapii on 12 Aug 2013
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sassy sybarite
You are so right carocordo. Hitting is no answer. If you hit a child he/she will learn to hit in turn. Luckily you only did it once and we are all human and capable of mistakes. It is the repeated habit that is the problem, not the occasional mistake. I'm sure your son is a fine young man at least partly because you were sensitive enough to not make a habit of hitting and to understand that your son deserves clearer more compassionate methods of punishment.
Posted by sassy sybarite on 06 Aug 2013
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[5] [1]Void
Nobody forced you to do it, right? If you feel you shouldn't - don't. But why do you want to make it illegal? Remember - that would apply not only to you and your guilty memories, but to everyone, at all times, under all circumstances. And, as a tongue in cheek comment, have you stopped to consider that the reason he has become "a fine person" just *might* be thanks to that one time he got a taste of discipline?
Posted by Void on 04 Aug 2013
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Robert
kids these days get it to easy the old saying is they do the crime they pay the fine
Posted by Robert on 02 Aug 2013
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